Other members do not receive adequate attention, particularly children. They lack of care, cruelty and indifference on the part of parents. Most of the wives of men who drink have a constant inner tension, feelings of helplessness, anger. It is clear that in this atmosphere of terror, neither of which child-rearing and full speech can not be. And at least can be called irresponsible decision to have a child in such a situation, knowing that the child will not be able to give proper education. Constant scandals, vulgarity, violence by parents, lack of mutual understanding will eventually lead to the fact that children grow up emotionally unstable, and with low self-esteem, which makes the process of upbringing and education of children and their normal adaptation to social environment.
In addition, alcoholism of a parent is almost always leads to the birth of a child with a variety of deformities or a predisposition to alcoholism in the child. He also born children who are most likely in the future will suffer from alcoholism and, therefore, this defect will be transmitted from one generation to another. So what do you do? Wives of alcohol-dependent people behave differently. Some tolerate the drunkenness of her husband, sacrificing their lives to preserve the family. Others hope that her husband stop drinking – and by all means try to – to cure his wife. Still others can not withstand suffering and trying to maintain their health and the health of their children – break a marriage. Unambiguous advice on the matter can not be done.
But still reasonably be called variant attempts to preserve the family, address the root problem of an unhappy marriage – alcoholism. And a significant role in the decision itself is dependent, who for the sake of improving relations within the family, should decide on the treatment of alcoholism. As for the family, its members can help in the healing process only when the self-deliverance from a painful submission a loved one to alcoholism – codependency. Treatment of co-dependence – a necessary condition for restoring family harmony and understanding